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Scripture reading for September 28th: 1st Timothy 3
“Here is a trustworthy saying: If anyone sets his heart on being an overseer, he desires a noble task.” (1st Timothy 3:1) God calls men and women into pastoral and apostolic leadership. It is a high calling and those who open their hearts to respond, desire a noble task. Leading in Christ’s church is challenging and rewarding for those who apply themselves fully.
“Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?) He must not be a recent convert, or he may become conceited, and fall under the same judgment as the devil. He must have a good reputation with outsiders, so that he will not fall into disgrace and into the devil’s trap.” (1st Timothy 3:2-7)
As we look at the qualifications of an overseer, there is more about character than gifts or talents. The person must be above reproach and if married, husband of one wife. (or wife of one husband) They must manage their own household and finances well as a prerequisite for working with the family of God and finances of Christ’s Church. New converts are not yet proven in their character and humility and should not be placed in leadership. One ability mentioned is the ability to teach. Teaching sound doctrine is one of the great needs of the church.
“Those who have served well gain an excellent standing and great assurance in their faith in Christ Jesus.” (1st Timothy 3:13) It is a noble task to serve Christ as overseer!
Scripture reading for August 11th: 1st Corinthians 7:1-19
Marriage is the oldest institutions established by God. God made a helper for Adam out of one of his ribs and gave her to man as his wife and companion. They were to be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth. (Genesis 1:28) However, when sin entered the lives of Adam and Eve, conflict in marriage also entered the scene. Guilt, shame and blame caused marriage to suffer and the Church had questions for the apostle Paul regarding marriage.
One of the questions concerned celibacy. Paul told the Corinthians that it was good not to marry. (1st Corinthians 7:1, 8) In fact, he was not married at this time. Paul gives his reasons for this later in the chapter. Unmarried people have more time to spend serving the Lord instead of pleasing their spouses. (1st Corinthians 7:32-35)
Paul also told them that if they married, that was good too. Because there was so much immorality in that culture, each person should have their own wife or husband. They should come together for mutual pleasure, not depriving each other of sexual satisfaction. If they did, they should abstain for a short period of time by mutual agreement for the purpose of prayer. This would keep Satan from tempting the partners. (1st Corinthians 7:2-5)
Another question dealt with marriages between believers and unbelievers. Paul instructed the believers to live with the unbelievers if they were willing and could have peace. The believers would serve as a sanctifying influence on their unbelieving mates and children. Divorce was not to be an option to be used unless the unbeliever departed from the relationship. When this happened, the believer was free to remarry, but only within the faith. These instructions were given to help the Corinthians (and us) live out their lives under God’s wisdom.
Marriages today are in disarray. Divorce is rampant, even within the church. Sex is used to manipulate and control instead of bring intimacy and bonding in marriages. Believers often take the way of the world in dealing with any issues in the marriage and divorce instead of believing for the salvation of the mate and children by living out their faith within the marriage. Take a moment today to pray for your marriage and spouse. If not married, pray for a marriage that you know needs God’s grace!